You Are A Badass: How To Stop Doubting Your Greatness And Start Living An Awesome Life
Author: Jen Sincero
“You are a victim of the rules you live by.” Many people, including myself for a while, tend to live in a state of doubting themselves due to past failures. What Jen explains in this book very clearly, though, is that it’s not your fault you’re fucked up. It’s your fault you stay fucked up. She tells us the difference between our conscious mind and our subconscious mind and how they are both important in their own way when it comes to self-love. Our conscious mind thinks it’s in control, but it isn’t. Our subconscious mind doesn’t think about anything, but it is in control. Most, if not all of our actions, are based on what our subconscious mind believes. That being said, a lot of times, the things we do may tell us a lot about how we truly feel about ourselves. This is where self-love affirmations come in. It may sound corny or cliché at first, but after reading this book I cannot express enough how important these affirmations are. Someone without self-love is someone who will constantly find themselves afraid of what others may think of them. Someone without self-love is also someone who will always feel threatened by things that don’t really matter, like someone else’s possessions, religious beliefs, confidence, talents, etc. So if you, like many of us, are lacking a healthy amount of self-love, it is time to rewire that subconscious mind. You need to appreciate how truly special you are and learn about what words you need to say to yourself to show it. Something else explained in the book is that in order to properly love ourselves, we need to be taking care of our bodies through exercising, stretching, hydrating, bathing, and so on. Speaking love to yourself is great, but it needs to be coupled with taking care of yourself so that your love for yourself really sinks into to that subconscious mind. One of my favorite quotes from the book comes very early on, and it says, “do not waste your precious time giving a single crap about what anybody else thinks of you.” This is so important. I had the idea of starting a blog for quite some time, but I was concerned with what my friends were going to say or think. Then I realized, if they were my friends, they would support me completely. And guess what? They did. Constantly seeking approval is not a healthy way to live. You need to learn to become okay with who you are regardless of who anybody else thinks you are or should be. Another big point stressed in the book is the importance of finding your calling. What is your big adventure? For me, I truly believe that sharing with others what I’ve learned from the books I’ve read is a big part of what I came here to do. It makes me feel good. It took me a while to figure that out, though. Something else Jen explains is that it could (and most likely will) take a little bit before you realize what you’re here for, but the answer is only going to come from action, not from just thinking about action. She also tells us is that we should always be learning. Always be a beginner at something. Find things you’d love to do and learn how to do them. Then, give more. Donate your time and/or money to organizations and people you really want to help. It will come back full circle in the end. As the book concludes, the author adds in a few more important aspects of becoming a true badass. Different areas are touched on like time management, creating to-do lists, noticing bad habits within yourself, the importance of getting coaches for all aspects of life, and more. In the end, I feel like every single person that has the ability to read would benefit immensely from this book. It will help open anyone’s eyes to what is holding them back from living the happiest life they can live and show them how to really, truly be free.
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